tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7613321351529307502024-02-06T21:39:40.380-08:00Betsy's Dreadlock Sponsorship Page :)Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-14328292381858720642011-06-22T12:15:00.000-07:002011-06-22T12:15:00.655-07:00On The RockOn May 24th, 2010, I wrote the following blog<br />
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http://betsyjmartin315.blogspot.com/2010_05_01_archive.html<br />
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The part of the most importance is the date and where I talk about what I would like to do. <br />
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While Uj and I were looking for a place to make a homestead a reality, I forgot completely about this blog. What was cool is we were on the same page about what we wanted.<br />
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So here was our wish list for our homestead.<br />
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1. big bathtub for betsy<br />
2. ice maker on fridge for noah<br />
3. garage / work space for Uj<br />
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Then we decided to elaborate further...<br />
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1. Poplar Trees on property so Uj can beekeep.<br />
2. Car lift to work on vehicles<br />
3. well water<br />
4. a place with water for Juno since she will not have the James River daily anymore.<br />
5. hardwood floors<br />
6. fireplace<br />
7. place for bands to play<br />
8. place to do dreadlock work<br />
9. ability to make money off property<br />
10. room for gardens / chickens<br />
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Well...<br />
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One night while talkin to Uj, I found an ad on Craigslist that described the majority of things we asked for. After calling the landlord, I KNEW I found our homestead. Uj went to look at it 2 days later and gave the landlord the money needed for us to secure the place. Move in date? May 25th, 2011. <br />
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One night, I decided to re-read my blogs to see how I have grown as a person / mother / female / sister / daughter / granddaughter / spiritually / emotionally etc. I stumbled upon the blog above and stopped for a few minutes. Salted Earth was going to be a reality 1 year and 1 day after I wrote my blog. <br />
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Please keep in mind, the ONLY thing I saw on this house was the craigslist add and then devoured every google hit for the new address. I saw a few pics. What I saw looked nice enough to raise our family. See, Uj is kind of sneaky. He didn't disclose EVERYTHING about the house so that way I would be surprised. <br />
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Mission Accomplished!<br />
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We were sitting on the front porch of our new home on the first night and could smell nothing but HONEYSUCKLE! Who loves honeysuckle? Uj of course :)<br />
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While he was walking me around our new property, he shows me the DAISY FIELD! Who loves daisies? I DO!<br />
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while walking the perimeter of the property, there is a stream. Who loves water? Diego and Juno both do!<br />
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While walking the back of the property, there are trails and blackberry bushes and ponds. Who loves exploring? Noah does. (Who am I kidding? We ALL do!)<br />
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I mean, it has EVERYTHING! EVEN down to the car lift. <br />
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The landlord told me that he knew this was our property because there are "Sweet Betsy" Bushes in the front of the house!!! <br />
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But we don't want to call it Salted Earth Homestead. That was MY thing. Uj is his own person and we need something that will reflect our family.<br />
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It has been said that when God wanted to talk to his followers, that they would go to the highest mountain to hear him better. It has been said that when Bob Marley wanted to meditate he would go to his rock and lay with his dreadlocks under his head and spend time with the one that created the Universe. The Bible says to "Build your house upon the Rock (God)" over and over. The county we live in is all built on really hard rock. (You should SEE some of the rock gardens around here!) <br />
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Seems we have a common thread ... <br />
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So Ladies and Gents, Hippies and Yuppies ...<br />
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ON THE ROCK HOMESTEAD<br />
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There is a SLIGHT pun / play on words. (Hey Tim Fletcher, did you catch it? I'll wait if you haven't. lol!)<br />
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On May 14th, 2011, we moved into On The Rock Homestead :)<br />
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The landlord did tell one other interesting detail. He acquired this house through his old friend that was dealing with foreclosure. This house went on the market the first week of January, 2011. Why is this an interesting detail to include? Well, simply put ... it's when Uj and I started talking.<br />
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Due to the way we are now eating and the incredible changes in myself physically ... and in wanting to show people that it is EASY to live the lifestyle of a hippie / protector of the earth / defender of animals...We will be doing a YOUTUBE channel! We will show our projects, foods, gardens, concerts and ways to live sustainably! We live a simple life of love, acceptance, trust, honesty and have God / Creator in the center of all of it. <br />
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Hey, did I mention that there are ELEVEN PECAN TREES? Seriously, ONE Pecan Tree will drop about 600 lbs of Pecans a season. They go for $10/lb unshelled and $15/lb shelled. Family, be prepared for the rest of your life, my gift to you will PROBABLY revolve around these nuts.<br />
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God has plans. He has INCREDIBLE plans. He truly knows what he is doing. In my 34 years of existence, I have NEVER had such a close relationship with God, I have NEVER been loved the way Uj loves me and I have never had such PEACE! I am an ever-evolving, godly woman. I am excited to see what is in store for our homestead! <br />
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Our FIRST big project will be getting the barn ready to be invaded by DREADLOCKS!!!! muaahahhaha! <br />
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When the neighbor says "It's about damn time we got some hippies in Zebulon"...you KNOW we are gonna have a blast!<br />
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Peace, Love, Locs<br />
BetsehBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-3248924930648762932011-05-03T06:39:00.000-07:002011-05-03T06:39:29.720-07:00ONE DAY!sometimes I lay<br />
under the moon<br />
and thank God I'm breathing<br />
then I pray<br />
don't take me soon<br />
cause I am here for a reason<br />
sometimes in my tears I drown<br />
but I never let it get me down<br />
so when negativity surrounds<br />
I know some day it'll all turn around<br />
because<br />
all my life I've been waiting for<br />
I've been praying for<br />
for the people to say<br />
that we don't wanna fight no more<br />
they'll be no more wars<br />
and our children will play<br />
one day x6<br />
it's not about<br />
win or lose cause<br />
we all lose<br />
when they feed on the souls of the innocent<br />
blood drenched pavement<br />
keep on moving though the waters stay raging<br />
in this maze you can lose your way (your way)<br />
it might drive you crazy but don't let it faze you no way (no way)<br />
sometimes in my tears I drown<br />
but I never let it get me down<br />
so when negativity surrounds<br />
I know some day it'll all turn around<br />
because<br />
all my life I've been waiting for<br />
I've been praying for<br />
for the people to say<br />
that we don't wanna fight no more<br />
they'll be no more wars<br />
and our children will play<br />
one day x6<br />
one day this all will change<br />
treat people the same<br />
stop with the violence<br />
down with the hate<br />
one day we'll all be free<br />
and proud to be<br />
under the same sun<br />
singing songs of freedom like<br />
one day x4<br />
all my life I've been waiting for<br />
I've been praying for<br />
for the people to say<br />
that we don't wanna fight no more<br />
they'll be no more wars<br />
and our children will play<br />
one day (matisyahu)<br />
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i fully believe as a christian i have to set a higher standard for myself. i have worked hard to make ME better and control all aspects of my life. what did i end up with? a broken relationship with The Creator (God) and those around me. negativity ate me up and spit me out.<br />
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having found an incredible Bible preaching church was definitely life changing. although i havent had a chance to talk to the church about the changes that are currently going on in me spiritually and feel i won't get the chance to since we are moving in 3 weeks....here's my attempt at sharing the LIGHT!<br />
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yesterday, it was announced throughout the world that osama bin laden has finally been found and killed and sent out to sea. justice for those who died senselessly in the 9/11/01 attacks. i can only imagine the relief these families feel.<br />
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relief.<br />
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i can honestly say that i grieved with the nation when the planes crashed. it was a horrible day. i remember sitting at anita's house making her coffee while she dressed (i was a home nurse for awhile.) and watching the today show. i remember sitting there HOPING my uncle paul wasn't at the pentagon or near it. i remember praying for our nation that we would retaliate in a positive mannor.<br />
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what if we retaliated in a way that would REALLY make a difference? what if instead of america gathering up every arsenal available (including money our kids need for education, health insurance etc) to go ATTACK...what if we put it to use in OUR country to make US stronger. <br />
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if we KEEP cutting programs to fund our military and other negative programs, OUR country could be GREAT! i think the military is good to a point. of course we need our knights in shinning armor. but in all sincerity, from those i know in the military / families with people in the military...seems as though its the biggest hoax yet. our service men are bullying people in other countries, trying to force OUR broken system on countries that don't want it, service men overseas (and at home) cheat on their significant others, miss children being born...all in the name of peace.<br />
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i am not sure what part of ANY of this is about PEACE anymore. seems its all about who has the bigger guns/nukes/budget. if this WERE about peace, this would of ALL played out differently.<br />
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so america killed osama bin laden. what has changed?<br />
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NOTHING!<br />
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gas was $3.99/gallon here on monday. today, its $4.04. so our gas prices havent dropped. we still owe our next 10 generations of america's monies to CHINA. i still have friends that don't have jobs. i still have friends that are broken hearted. the climate is still changing in Biblical proportions. our military is still over there. babies are still born to single parents and poverty, people still dont have medical insurance. schools are still shutting down. music education is disappearing as are sports in many schools / communities. marijuana is still illegal.<br />
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it's still the SAME today but with one less buzzard around.<br />
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so why are people cheering in the streets that he's gone? if you were directly effected personally by 9/11, i COMPLETELY understand. to those of us that watched on tv and really didn't loose anyone personally....well, its not as understood.<br />
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the OLD testament says "eye for eye". the NEW testament is about LOVE, PEACE, FORGIVENESS.<br />
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people tell me i am a dreamer or idealist. maybe so. <br />
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today, i was driving home from taking noah to school. i was sitting at the main 4 corners in my town to turn and get home yet there was a car ahead of me. there was a GREEN LIGHT and an arrow for us to turn. what did the car ahead of me do? SIT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE LANE AND WAIT FOR THE CAR WITH THE REDLIGHT TO GO. ah, silly people. i prayed god would cure the stupidity of this person and open their eyes to the signs. the person decided to turn as the OTHER car that had the red light came forward. (im assuming the light for them changed.) near car accident....but 6 inches. it was close. then the person JAMS ON their brakes and skids almost into the car parked by the police station and sits there. thank goodness i was alert. i nearly hit this person. i slammed on my horn and prayed to God again. i got home safely. <br />
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i could have reacted differently and started shouting at the car ahead of me. what good would it have done? i mean, its pouring rain (according to people in my town day 18 in a row....) and no windows were down so the person couldnt hear me. so why get my blood pressure up over this? <br />
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i KNOW our country is capable of peace. i have been to places that have large amounts of people and for the most part, its peaceful. (there are always those that have to stir the gravy.)<br />
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people commented on my status on fb yesterday that i was dreaming to think we could do things peacefully. all it takes is ME getting MY heart set on Godly things. and it requires YOU to do it...and the next door neighbor, the police, our government officials. if we TRUELY were a country of PEACE, things would be COMPLETELY different then they are now. this country was founded UNDER GOD. so why are we relying on mortal, corrupt men to lead the way?<br />
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WE NEED TO STOP AND STAND UP FOR OURSELVES, CHILDREN, COUNTRY!<br />
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we need a PEACEFUL riot. we need to get OUR WORD OUT THAT KILLING ISNT THE ANSWER.<br />
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the song i have posted lyrics to and video to SPEAKS THE TRUTH.<br />
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no one wins when children's blood is spilled. no one wins when a car bomb goes off and kills a father/son/nephew/grandfather/uncle. no one wins when the treasury sends money to china to pay for goods OUR country could produce. no one wins when we PRINT more money because we are all out. no one wins when children grow to adults and can remember hearing sirens, gunfire, death. <br />
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no one wins when we CHEER CUZ WE KILLED A BASTARD.<br />
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well, i mean SOMEONE wins. but is it us? nope. the cemetary makes money when children's blood is spilled. the bomb maker gets a raise or more orders when the car bomb explodes like it should. china makes money when we send it to them. stores benefit from extra money being printed as they can mark up the cost of their goods since the dollar value went down. doctors, drug companies, hospitals, psychologists, drug dealers, bars, strip clubs, prisons, politicians make money when children grow to adults and remember the terrible things. <br />
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bin laden's group wins when we murder him because they will retaliate and now have a "heroic" story to tell THEIR children about a man that eluded the BEST GOVERNMENT IN THE WORLD.<br />
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what did the usa gain?<br />
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exactly. DIDDLY SQUAT.<br />
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i am making sure consistently to keep my heart focused on love, positive energy, light, forgiveness, peace. it is so hard. but if we can get our hearts focused on what is right, the light will come.<br />
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i am a Child of Light. i cannot stand for all the violence. i cannot justify cheering when someone is killed. they are still humans. it is still bloodshed. it is still senseless.<br />
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one day, i believe this country is destined for great things. i am VERY much doing my part to encourage others, life a peaceful life and speak the truth.<br />
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will you join matisyahu, ziggy, jesus, god, buddah, jehovah, halie selassie, ghandi, dali lama, mother teresa and others that firmly believe there should be peace? (these are in no specific order. and i left them all lower case not out of disrespect but in showing you they were PEOPLE like us. they just stood for something greater.)<br />
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i dont know about you...but i dont want to be known as a negative light. i want to share the peace i have and encourage others to bigger and better things. <br />
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who wants to help spread the light?Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-76705877937603081192011-04-16T06:42:00.000-07:002011-04-16T06:42:43.050-07:00take a bath, you hippie!"Wash! Cleanse yourselves!" Isaiah 1:16a<br />
"According to their uncleanliness and rebellion I have dealt with them, and I (God) hid my face from them" Ezekiel 39:24<br />
"When an unclean spirit goes out of a person, it passes through waterless places looking for rest but does not find it." Matthew 12:43<br />
"Woe to you, experts in the law and you Pharisees, hyprocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and the dish but inside they are full of greed and self indulgence. Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup, so that the outside may become clean too!" Matthew 23: 25-26<br />
"Now the Jewish feast of Passover was near, and many people went up to Jerusalem from the rural areas before the Passover to cleanse themselves ritually" John 11:55<br />
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So, the Bible gives great insight to being clean. Given, in the Bible, they are talking more about being clean in spirit and heart than hair and body. However, they do give specific examples of both. <br />
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Forgive the soapbox for a moment.<br />
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UJ and I went to Buffalo, NY to do work on 3 sets of dreadlocks. All three sets had residue from improper cleaning. One, I can forgive as it deals with serious allergies. The other two, I am not sure exactly why they weren't cared for properly...my suspicion is lack of information.<br />
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Consider this your formal education on clean dreadlocks.<br />
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Case Study A<br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">This is after one client's deep cleanse. His locs are 6 months old and he had only used over the counter "normal" shampoo. ooh, and cannot forget only washed them once every few weeks. <br />
<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">These pics are AFTER his deep cleanse. So we went and did some actual scrubbing of his locs for 30 min and then did some maintenance. <br />
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Case B<br />
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Dreadlocks are 6 months old and were cared for with a competitor of Dreadheadhq's products. She did a deep cleanse before we got to her. There was a sour odor that came from her locs. Once UJ and I realized how full of gunk her locs were, we did a massive deep clean for roughly an hour. <br />
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Case Study 3<br />
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He called me and said he needed work done on his locs. He came over for a consult and his locs were so full of stuff. He said he had been using "normal" over the counter shampoo for THREE years. To the sink we went. Here are the before and after pics from just washing his locs.<br />
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Here is some of the gunk.....<br />
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Case Study 4<br />
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This is a client of Amy (aka the dread queen)'s that used bar soap and a natural shampoo. the only problem is ... the natural soap is totally full of superfat and their website states it is NOT good for dreadlocks.<br />
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My dreadlock journey is a very spiritual journey. So for me to not wash my dreadlocks or to wash them with something that wasn't made for them seems a bit ... well, it doesn't make sense in my mind. No where in the Bible does it say "cleanliness is next to godliness" however God makes it very clear that we need to be clean.<br />
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For those of you thinking that dreadlocks aren't in the bible....<br />
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"All the days of the vow of his separation, no razor may be used on his head until the time is fulfilled for which he separated himself to the LORD. He will be holy, and he must let the locks of hair on his head grow long." Numbers 6:5<br />
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PLEASE NOTE: in this scripture, my mom (jennie) decided to grab Strong's Concordance and looked up LOCKS. She wanted to make sure it was about dreadlocks and not a loc of hair. The definition of this from hebrew is: (page 97 of the Hebrew Bible section ... haha, im punny!) reference # 6545 "the hair (as disheveled):locs). <br />
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I am going to let the pictures speak for themselves. One thing I would like to stress ... this is more common than uncommon. I hear so many people with locs that state they wish people would stop being ignorant about dreadlocks and them smelling. Sincerely, if everyone washed their locs properly with water and a good dreadlock shampoo, we wouldn't have the connotation that ALL dreadlocks are dirty and smell. If that is the look you are wanting, that's fine. But if you are wanting to have healthy, clean locs ... well, maybe washing on a more regular schedule is best.<br />
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If you need to bake a cake and it calls for baking soda and you use baking powder, what happens? Well, your cake doesn't come right. It doesn't rise and has a very, very weird taste. So why not just use what is needed to make the cake delish?<br />
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Same for dreadlocks. There are shampoos that are MADE specifically for dreadlocks. Although some have still shown to cause some issues. I have found so far, after trying several other dreadlock only shampoos, that the Dread Soap from Dreadheadhq is by far the best. AND their genius has pulled through again and they now have a new ORGANIC SHAMPOO! ahhhh, it's wonderful.<br />
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"Finally he (Samson) told her (Delilah)his secret. He said to her, "My hair has never been cut (or brushed), for I have been dedicated to God from the time I was conceived. If my head were shaved, my strength would leave me; I would become weak, and be just like other men." Judges 16:17<br />
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forgive me....but i don't want to be like other people.Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-83283313750546121372011-03-18T20:03:00.000-07:002011-03-18T20:03:43.930-07:00thank you mr. coffeehappy friday!<br />
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apparently the fullest moon will be tonight. gonna go take a look here when i am done. <br />
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and since it's the FULLEST moon does this mean the REALLY crazy things will happen?<br />
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i think it might.<br />
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about a year ago, i was wishing i had a guy to go to concerts with. not to date but just for company. i love going to concerts and with most of my friends not having as much flexibility as i do...and dont really caring for the kind of music i do... did the only thing i could think of. i placed a personal ad. stating honestly that i just wanted someone that could catch a show or two with. pretty simple. <br />
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there was one man that responded that is the only one i remember. i never met him. we talked online a few times and one night he called me on skype. what he was looking for that night was nothing i was willing to give. when i explained that, he got very upset with me and said i was selfish. <br />
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selfish.<br />
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wow. i mean, that is a harsh word. it honestly made me stop and think as to if there was truth to it. i didnt talk to him again. and i realized he was upset i wouldnt do what he had asked and that made me selfish in his eyes. in my eyes, pushing me to do something i am morally against is considerably disrespectful.<br />
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about 11 months later. (in spongebob voice)<br />
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i was walkin today to get my massage and see a coffee truck pull and stop in front of my house. since i've lived at my place, i havent really gone walking outside thanks to all the white stuff. figured i had a neighbor that REALLY loves coffee. im chatting with a future client on the phone (sorry sarah!) and this man out of the van and up to me ....<br />
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"hey" rashid<br />
"me? can i help you?" me<br />
"i just had to stop the car and introduce myself to you" rashid<br />
"um, ok? do i know you?" me<br />
"yeah, we used to talk on skype and online. my brother has dreadlocks." rashid<br />
<b>LIGHTBULB</b><br />
"rashid? ah, yes, you called me selfish. so why did you want to say hi to me then?" me<br />
"can we look past that and start fresh" rashid<br />
"if i said no would you say im bein selfish?" me (im too sarcastic sometimes.)<br />
"i stopped the car to see you. that has to count for something." rashid<br />
i gave him a hug.<br />
it then dawns on me he is in front of MY HOUSE!!??<br />
"what are you doing in front of my house?" me<br />
"i deliver coffee to (and he names the places but im not gonna) several businesses on your street. i saw you come out and i knew i had to stop and say hi." rashid<br />
"well, it was nice to meet you. im not sure your intentions for stopping but this whole thing has flattered me. thank you for making me smile." me<br />
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and i walked to get my massage.<br />
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i have NEVER EVER had something like this happen to me. i am flattered but definitely not even remotely interested. <br />
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guess i was looking remarkable today or something. <br />
just a little too funny to NOT share.Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-1131638515907537732011-03-02T10:16:00.001-08:002011-03-02T10:16:59.078-08:00you are life more beautifulhey :)<br />
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sorry its been a few weeks. its been crazy here! all good ways too. ready?<br />
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noah had winter break the end of february so we decided to ditch the 120+ inches of white stuff and head for blue skies and yellow suns. we stopped in richmond as i owed my friend frank some of my homemade mac and cheese (for the record...it wasnt my best batch sadly enough. i owe him a better one in april. but he didnt notice. he LOVED it.) and to meet up with james. while we were at james's house, we put in human hair extensions for my son's first set of dreadlocks.<br />
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it was nice getting to spend the time together. we then proceeded to check out the area we are moving to (T-3 months 29 days) and found the area to really have what we want. and the ymca complex is so HUGE! we are going to really enjoy going there often.<br />
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we then drove to see the burgess family and to pic up our new pup. his name is diego burgess martin and was taken un via the burgess family to the humane society. i must say, mona, from stokes county is just truly a beautiful woman. she helps us get everything taken care of so we just had to pick him up. it is always nice getting to spend time with the burgess family. all the love and hugs and kisses and snuggles and laughs...its just wonderful. if we could bottle their love and share it...<br />
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check out the little stinker!<br />
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after spending so many days away, i just really wanted my bed. homeward bound is ALWAYS the worst trip. especially knowing the weather we were going to be blowing into. i decided i wanted to make one last stop on the way home. <br />
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i have met someone thanks to dreadheadhq and this blog. she is so amazing. i was only 1 hour from her and KNEW i just wanted to meet her and spend some time with her. unfortunately i had a long drive so we only got to spend 1.5 hours. she is just as amazing in person as she is online. (here's her blog if you are interested. <a href="http://www.thebluenymph.blogspot.com"></a> )<br />
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we got to the ny border and BAM. snow. i kinda cried the rest of the way home. the trip was wonderful. i got to meet some incredible people and know that the most amazing connections were made. <br />
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<b>AND ITS THE LAST TIME I MAKE THAT DRIVE IN THE SNOW!!!</b><br />
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i will be making the treck again in 7 weeks for <a href="http://www.shakorihills.org"></a> and am really excited. that will be the last time i make the trip back to ny to get to our house! that makes me very happy.<br />
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i feel totally refreshed and have an immense sense of peace as i know i am doing what god is asking of me. and it is causing me to have to put how <b>I</b> want to do things aside. what i think is amazing? his plan blows my ideas out of the water.<br />
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while on vacation i got several calls from fans of jason castro. i finally called jonny and talked to him about offering him a sponsorship or something. i started the phone calls monday. left another one today. wonder how long it will take to get ahold of him? <br />
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THEN just a few hours later, i was doing the live chat and someone messaged me about doing her dreadlocks! ok so im excited that someone is going to be driving 6 hours to have me work on their locs ONE WAY! yeah, pretty excited for that! well, then she asks if she can do a piece of knotted by knature for high times magazine! now talk about AMAZING! it will be on their website!!! <br />
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these next few months are going to be crazy, i am nervous and excited! there is so much to do to pack up two households to combine to one and get a place that will suit as many of our needs as possible within our budget. for the record, yes james is moving with us which makes me uber stoked and noah really likes him too. but let me set the record straight...we are just friends. we are moving at snails pace. and i must say, it is so nice getting to know someone so deeply. and for those of you that know me...i dont usually take much time ever. i go where my heart/head tell me. this time, im doing it how it should be done. and its pretty awesome. i am not sure exactly how to register a child in a new state for school ... although honestly we are talkin about homeschooling. <br />
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i am interested to see what will come of the interview and tryin to get jason castro. the more i am following god, the more he is connecting me in ways i would have NEVER imagined. and sharing the trip with noah and james makes it even more awesome. it seems more and more amazing people are coming into my life at the correct times. <br />
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well, ok. so now onto the next exciting adventure :) suggest my blog to people! wonder how long it will take before jason castro catches wind of this?<br />
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peace, love and locs<br />
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ps...don't know who he is? here's his song that is all over klove :)<br />
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guess this song is kinda fitting for this blog eh? wow. see? this is what i am talkin about!Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-53907683614172794632011-02-08T11:38:00.000-08:002011-02-08T11:38:20.896-08:00i will soari am due to blog but everything going on around me is making it more difficult for me to get my feelings into words.<br />
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this past week my son celebrated his 11th birthday. gosh, every year i feel a bit more old. i surprised him with having the woodside's and tyler's over to celebrate. made his favorite mac and cheese and had a peanut butter/chocolate cake. it was a very nice time :)<br />
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things have been a little crazy here as god and i have been spending a LOT of time together and learning more about eachother. well, i am learning more about him. he kinda already knows me. and he knows the desires of my heart...even if sometimes they change often. for the most part what i have wanted has remained consistent. <br />
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for of those of you that KNOW my story, sorry for repeating myself. for those of you that DONT....here ya go.<br />
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i mentioned in previous posts that i had to live in a nursing home and was in a wheelchair. it was horribly difficult for me. i only saw my son twice during that time frame and was emotionally not able to handle it easily. to say i was broken is a gross understatement. <br />
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i can admit to honestly losing my faith for awhile. pastor bj would come visit weekly...sometimes a few times a week. i had other visitors also which really encouraged me. but what i was needing was something from GOD promising me i would be ok. <br />
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my absolute favorite story in the Bible is that of noah. (hence noah's name.) the part i love about the story is that they used a white dove to scope out the situation. and that white dove brought back an olive branch. that olive branch was the sigh noah was looking for.<br />
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well, i asked god for my olive branch and got it in spades. here is the song that i wrote about the situation....i hope you love it. <br />
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god continues to bless me and has me on this majorly intense journey right now. when i can share more i will. i am practicing using my filter. and it kinda is making me more antsy. but the more antsy i get, the more i pray :) <br />
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my dreadlocks turned 14 months old on babe ruth's 116th birthday, bob marley's 66th birthday, the day my pastor announced he was being reappointed and a friend was being appointed ds AND superbowl sunday. oh yeah, and the song above debuted! it was a highly emotional day for me.<br />
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for those following my countdown...we're at t minus 10 days. good lord.<br />
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the days are getting longer which means winter is almost over...although in syracuse that means about may...haha. <br />
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in my mind i'm goin to........Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-13591911521433378932011-02-01T07:29:00.000-08:002011-02-01T08:01:22.198-08:00butterfliesDefinition of BUTTERFLY<br />
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: any of numerous slender-bodied diurnal lepidopteran insects including one superfamily (Papilionoidea) with broad often brightly colored wings and usually another superfamily comprising the skippers<br />
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: something that resembles or suggests a butterfly; especially : a person chiefly occupied with the pursuit of pleasure<br />
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: a swimming stroke executed in a prone position by moving both arms in a circular motion while kicking both legs up and down<br />
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plural : a feeling of hollowness or queasiness caused especially by emotional or nervous tension or anxious anticipation<br />
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: a defensive move by a goalie in ice hockey executed by dropping to the knees while spreading the lower legs outward<br />
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(thankyou <a href="http://http://www.merriam-webster.com/"></a>)<br />
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i have seen many #1, im not sure i truly understand #2, #3 i was never good at, #4 BINGO! I SAY BINGO! #5...who cares, its not about baseball. (lol)<br />
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i am 33 years old. i feel that i am loving and kind. i speak my mind...to the chagrin of some. i don't really have a filter. i'm not sure if the marshmellow man would be the first thing i thought of...harrison ford would probably be what was conjured. i am giving almost to a fault. i am not the best housekeeper and definitely not made to do dishes (yuck). i don't believe i was ever told "wow, you are the best at that". i was a solid B student in school...except for music and gym. my two favorite classes. straight 100's. i have the ability to think outside the box. i never really was a good follower. i never really was part of a clique. i could transcend barriers classmates put up...and still can today as an adult. most that meets me tell me about themselves completely within 30 min of meeting me. and 9 times outta 10 i share too. why not? honesty is always the best policy. i am not the prettiest or ugliest. i am not the skinniest nor the fattest. im not the tallest for being female nor am i the shortest. i am not poor although i am by no means rich where money is concerned. <br />
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in L<3VE....
<b>I'M WEALTHIER THAN CARLOS SLIM HELU!</b><br />
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i truly believe i have been in love once. however in doing a bit of research for this blog...i am realizing i really wasn't. <br />
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"love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. love oes not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. love never fails." 1 corinthians 13:4-8a<br />
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honestly, i'm just SOOOOOOOOO glad that i have relationships with people that are THIS VERY WAY! <br />
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before i proceed with the though, i have to apologize that i haven't blogged in 2 weeks. my mind has been very preoccupied. it's taken me this long to get my thoughts into a neat circle. and again, i realize this isn't necessarily dreadlock related...but at the same time it really is.<br />
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i have dated plenty of men and have had my share of heartbreak. i am not sure i ever broke anyone's heart...was never told i had anyways.<br />
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see? i mean i seriously fly in the middle of all the radars except one. i am statistically very average. thank goodness i prefer to break stats. <br />
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the other night i was in a very fun conversation with a friend. we had been talking for about 45 minutes or so and i felt all of the sudden like i was going to puke. seeing as how we could see eachother, i knew i was busted. i would have to explain that i suddenly got sick to my stomach and had no idea why. i mean, it shocked my system so hard that i just needed a moment....4 minutes worth to be exact. i got really red and hot and just though whatever was in my stomach was surely gonna ruin my laptop...and someone else will see it happen.<br />
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after i regained composure...i still don't think i was 100% tuned into the conversation. i don't remember much of the rest of it anyways. not in the charlie brown way...but in a dream-like fashion.<br />
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i slept so terribly that night. my mind was racing. i never did throw up. and i felt totally fine.<br />
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except my heart was on FIRE. relax, not a literal fire. the warmth that was radiating out of that heart...gosh, i had to kick off my blankets. <br />
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i started thinking about my kid turning 11 in a few days and what needed to get done to pull off a birthday party. i started thinking about how much he's grown and learned. started reflecting on being pregnant with him.<br />
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it was like percy jackson threw the lightening bolt at me.<br />
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it was butterflies.<br />
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i DIDN'T have to get sick. i got BUTTERFLIES in my stomach! ahhhhhhahahahahahha! <br />
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for the first time in my entire life...a man gave me butterflies. (shoot in typin this i am getting them again! lol!!!!!)<br />
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ok, im composed now. sorry.<br />
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i have had this feeling before...and i always KNEW it to be a god thing. kinda like a v8 smack to the head...and much more loving and enjoyable. when i am prayin for guidance or wisdom and it hits me, i get this feeling. many of my prayers were answered from this feeling. <br />
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for the record i am SERIOUSLY experiencing #4.<br />
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thank you friends and family for loving me <3 we should share this love with everyone.Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-3259778269608240072011-01-14T07:49:00.000-08:002011-01-14T07:49:43.760-08:00just keep swimming"When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn. " ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe<br />
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many thanks to carrie for posting this quote as it is exactly what i am going to blog about. again, this may NOT be very dreadlock related but i feel i need to share.<br />
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in 2003 when i first broke my spine, i was faced with the possibility of spike (dr. montgomery) messing up and paralyzing me or anesthesia killing me. regular old consequences for being under the knife i suppose. but i had a 3 year old child. if anything happened to me, what would happen to him?<br />
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before i go any further, i need to qualify a few things. my birth mother (tish) and i are not close...never really have been. we had tried being in a few activities together but never were able to bridge the gap. i was always closer with my dad (jeff). to be honest, when i met my step mom (jennie)...i felt such a closeness to her and share with her as a mother / daughter should. in my eyes, SHE is my mother. i am not writing this blog to air dirty laundry or to mame tish's reputation. that is the LAST thing i would want to do. i am feeling compelled to share this story because it shows how truth and love are the only way.<br />
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without any other real viable options, tish got joint custody under the premise that when i am better or got married she would relinquish the rights. <br />
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i should have known this would end bad. i mean, it usually does with her and i. not because of any other reason than lies.<br />
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i should also preface this by stating my entire life, tish has always told me i am a dishonest person. even to the point of my needing to give her a copy of a job contract because she swore i was lying about vacation time / pay etc. and even with the black and white copies in her hand, she still swore i was being dishonest. if i told her the sky is blue...she would go look and still not believe me. it's just how she is. i am not tryin to bash her. that is the opposite of my intent.<br />
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when i started dating marshawn and we decided maybe getting married and him adopting noah was gonna be the way to go. i proposed this to her to prepare her for the giving up the joint custody thing...and she didn't really like. due to several series of unfortunate events, i never did marry marshawn and he didn't adopt noah. i did learn some valuable life lessons and realized that no matter WHAT i did, the approval from tish would never come so why keep trying? it was just stressing me out to the point of spending time with the porcelain goddess. rather unhealthy for sure. <br />
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it was a year into my relationship with marshawn that i realized there was really only pleasing God. and so that is what i sat out to do. i started helping lead worship at my church, started reading my Bible on a more even pace and decided to just live my life.<br />
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noah was a little heavier than most kids from about 7-9. he had some weird awkward stage and had put on a few extra pounds and really wasn't that active as i was still dealing with some spine issues and cancer. my ex would run him to the playground (well he wasnt an ex at the time), basketball and soccer. noah shed quite a few lbs and when he would come home from visiting his grandmother, he would be bummed. she would tell him that he is fat, needs to loose weight, start being more careful or will become diabetic etc. i mean, it seriously freaked the kid out. <br />
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there were other things she would pick at him about. "tell your mom this" or "if your mom doesnt _____ then your life will be terrible". stuff a 8 year old boy should NEVER have to deal with. <br />
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when noah started his 4th grade year, we were in a new house in a new neighborhood in a new school district. the house was perfect for us. we invited her over for dinner so she could see where we were living. to this day, she has NEVER been there. we invited her and her husband over for dinner for thanksgiving to which they refused. christmas they wanted to take noah to vegas to visit my brother. my brother didn't want them visiting as he had plans. knowing my brother wasn't in a place for visitors AND noah stating he didn't want to spend christmas AND new years without me, we didn't see them at christmas either. in january, tish then tried to see noah...who at this point is completely fed up with his grandmother's actions and said he was done. after much talkin with those close to me, i decided it was now or never to get the custody thing taken care of.<br />
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so i did it. i went down, filed papers and a whirlwind of nonsense started. to say i felt as my back was in a corner would be an understatement. to say that i was getting crap from people and hearing the lies being told about me...i mean, i had quite the crushed spirit. thankfully those that love me the most encouraged me in ways i will NEVER be able to repay or thank them for.<br />
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court was terrible. for 70 minutes i had to listen to the one that helped create me and raise me spew words of hatred and lies about me. that day in the courtroom i vowed to hate my mother for the rest of my life. keep in mind, i didn't testify.<br />
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a week later, God convicted me of that and i asked Him to forgive me and then i forgave tish. <br />
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<b>IT WAS A GREAT MOMENT OF CLARITY!</b><br />
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i continued to live my christian life and the pursuit of God's heart. i continued to care for my son in the same fashion as i always have. i continued to love those around me and just live my life as honestly as possible. <br />
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i figured the more honest i lived, the more people would see the truth.<br />
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and i was correct.<br />
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today in the mail is the judges ruling.<br />
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"Now, after examination and inquiry into the facts and circumstances of the case and after hearing the proof and testimony offered in relation thereto, it is ORDERED, that the Respondent mother, Betsy ____, be awarded sole legal and residential custody of the child, Noah ______, with the Respondent father Clint ________ having reasonable parenting time as the parties mutually agree. The Court makes no order of custody or visitation for the Petitioner grandmother Tish _____ and finds this Order to be in the subject child's best interest."<br />
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i truly feel that in living a life that is honest and sincere, the lies that people tell about you....well, those they tell to WILL see the truth. for those of you that are trying DAILY to gain the approval of your parents...well, is it working? if NOT, then why are you still trying. i am the owner of a company and help people daily. i am not saying this out of ego...just saying it to point out that no matter what i do / did, the approval wouldn't come. my dad and stepmom (herein referred to as <b>MOM</b>) have been encouraging and loving REGARDLESS of what i do. that is how it should be. my dad tells me how proud of me he is and it warms my heart in ways i cannot express. <br />
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i will continue to live my life in a way that is pleasing to God. i will continue to raise my son in the way that i have raised him to date. he is a God fearing, decent, respectful, honest, silly, nerdy, geeky, great on hand drums, brilliant reader, writes great scifi (he's only 10)...my kid is awesome. <br />
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so now, onto the next chapter of my life. <br />
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the things i learned in this process.<br />
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the truth IS (and should be) the ONLY option. stand up for what you believe in. when you fight for what you believe in...good things happen. <br />
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i have been truly blessed by (some of) my family and my friends. this journey has been a bit crazy and had some days of serious drama. now it is time for everyone to move forward and heal their heart. i am prayin daily for tish in hopes that she finds happiness with herself and finds peace. <br />
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again, i did not post this to brag or anything. everyone has a story that could encourage others. i just wish that those with stories would share them to encourage others. in light of this blog being hard to publish comments to...i did change the settings so you should have easier access to posting...i would appreciate comments to be free of drama and negativity. i am certain tish's heart will be considerably heavier after reading the papers today. i just want healing for the family and no more drama. i am sure in writing this, i will get an email with her "yelling" at me. but truth be told, that's on her. <br />
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if you are in a fight to get the rights for your child / children, be honest with the judge / lawyer. do not talk badly of the person you are taking to court in front of your children. they need to be able to make up their mind and in hearing how bad dad or mom is...it will backfire. let kids figure things out based on their own feelings. just because im scared of spiders, doesn't mean my kid needs to be. this world is so negative and full of so much animosity. i mean, i was raised to be the person i am (well, as far as morals go). tish once told someone (i forget who) that when a child becomes 18, it is time for them to examine the relationship. you either remain friends or walk away. pretty telling and shocking eh? a mother's job DOES NOT stop at 18. that i promise you. but the job alters a bit. i love more than anything that i have mom (jennie). i can tell her anything at anytime. whether it's how to deal with a boy starting puberty or relationships or god or anything. it doesn't matter. just because i am adult doesn't mean i don't need a mom. you either! we ALWAYS need our mothers / fathers. i have a friend that has been divorced for several years. the father honestly believes that kids adjust just fine and have no consequence from being from a split household. coming from one, i can tell you, that is NOT correct. we need both parents. if your marriage didn't work, well, then you do everything you can to be friendly to the other parent, be honest with your kids and don't forget that THEY are hurting just as much. i have seen (and been part of) doing things to hurt a parent because the other one said to do it. it's just not good. <br />
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stand up for yourself, be honest, give to others and LOVE. who would have thought that the words of harriet beecher stowe would ring so true to me?Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-62896614823355022142011-01-04T09:22:00.000-08:002011-01-04T10:35:37.570-08:00ch ch ch changesHAPPY NEW YEAR! I am sitting here realizing that its 2011 and the unlimited potential this year has!<br /><br><br />This blog may not necessarily end up about dreadlocks. Just fyi.<br /><br><br />I have noticed SO many people posting on fb that they are ALREADY disappointed with 2011. It makes me laugh because the new year changing...it's just another day. I mean it cannot say to itself, "Day, let's do something magnificent.". Nope, that is YOUR choice. If you want to have a better 2011, then what are you willing to give up or learn to make it a better year?<br /><br><br />I know people (and I admit to having been one of them) that just couldn't do things without someone else, had to have LOTS of people around to be happy and didn't really appreciate myself enough to enjoy me time. People always tell me I'm the most positive person they've ever met. That makes me wonder why. I mean, it's not THAT hard to tell someone good things about themselves or encourage others to be better or to just avoid negativity. <br /><br><br />I did a serious inventory of my life after my relationship ended with Marshawn. I was a mess. Given, it was an abusive relationship...still, I KNEW I was gonna need some time to get back to the Betsy I was. Then a lightbulb went off. Why do I have to be the same old Betsy? I mean, if I'm gonna change, why not change all of me? Who said I had to stay how I was? And who said that I had to have all the same friends? The friends of mine that caused drama, turmoil, stress, headaches in my life...well, I've said goodbye and thank you to all of them. I used to watch Young and the Restless daily. I even would dvr it. It was something I shared with late Grandpa Art. After he passed, Grandma Ellie and I kept asking ourselves, "It's the same story line recycled, why do we watch this show?". Well, I decided that it was too much garbage in. No one on that show portrays a healthy relationship, everyone is OVERLY demented and its always someone else sleeping with someone else's husband. It's just plain garbage. I stopped watching it. Family members (this one has proven to be a bit more tricky but I am doing it.) were in the same boat. Some people in the family NEVER respond to anything yet they expect you to be there for Christmas so they can give the appearance of being better or more loved. And then the promise to keep in touch...it lasts for about a few weeks and then you are back trying to have a relationship with family. Don't get me wrong, I am not complaining. But why should I sit there and ware myself out for no good reason? I have had several family members reach out this last year and honestly, it has been wonderful. Mainly thanks to fb where you cannot HELP but be connected. <br /><br><br />But any relationship is better than none....right?<br /><br><br />WRONG!<br /><br> <br />I would rather be alone (although I am never really alone as I have God!) than have friends/family that tear me down, are negative to me or take advantage of my HUGE heart. <br /><br><br />So how can YOU make the switch from an unhealthy life to one that has great meaning and purpose? Well, God. He's the main constant in my life. Without Him, I am nothing. For those of you that aren't into the whole God thing ... there are still things you can do to help yourself out!<br /><br><br />Take a hard look at your life and who you surround yourself with. I know someone that I thought I was friends with until yesterday. Her comment was something like "i keep people at a distance and don't let them get close so I cannot get hurt.". YIKES! So am I not considered a friend even though every time we are online together we talk, we talk at church, birthday parties etc. I would be so sad if I didn't have my close friends. I rely on them as much as they rely on me. It doesn't take much to re-evaluate your friendships. It's what to do when you have identified the bad apples. <br /><br><br />How did I do it? I started slowly. Those that kept calling and asking for a favor, the answer turned into NO. When they finally had been turned down several times, they asked why. When my response is that I felt like they were taking advantage of me it caused a small pause. Some hung up on me never to be heard from again, some apologized and said they would try better (And some of them actually followed through with that!). It was hard to grieve friendships that were years old. But I would rejoice in the fact that I would have less drama.<br /><br><br />Another HUGE change I made....I have a rather bad potty mouth. I admit it. It can be so bad sometimes. One of my FAVORITE kids in the world's favorite song is "give you hell". When I asked him why, he said "because I can say HELL and mom won't get mad". It made me do some thinking about what we put into our kids. (i'm not saying that parent is a bad parent. she's one of my closest friends. just using this one statement to prove a point.) I stopped listening to mainstream radio. I was sick of everything being overtly sexual and sneaky. What 10 year old REALLY knows the meaning of "i wanna lick your candy stick"? (sorry for those that offends) But let's get real for a moment. If they hear it, sing it and figure out the meaning...are they to think that the behavior is ok for their age? This past New Year's Eve bash in NC someone had their ipod on shuffle. I mean, some REALLY great songs came out. Bad Bad Leroy Brown, Touch of Grey, Bohemian Rhapsody...just to name a few. There were a few tweenagers and they were singing and dancing and it was fun....then I realized my son didn't know most of the tunes that were being played. (luckily he DID know bohemian rhapsody....it would be an epic fail as a parent if he was THAT clueless.) And I felt sad for a moment because he couldn't enjoy it like we were...then I realized I was thankful. Not that music is evil or whatever. But if you sing and sing and sing it...it becomes more acceptable and then other artists / lyricists can take the boundary further...at first, there is shock....then over time it's more acceptable. I keep pandora on the John Denver station or listen to Klove in the car. Honestly, hearing my son sing Robin Mark or Paul Baloche or Audio A....just makes my heart happy.<br /><br><br />To bring this into the dreadlock world for a moment. I used Dreadheadhq products in my hair to get locs that I am BEYOND in love with! There are people out there that scare others into thinking products will ruin your locs or tell you synthetic dreadlocks are fake. Come on. There aren't THAT many folks with dreadlocks. Give up the bickering and just LOVE and accept each other. Your dreadlocks aren't any better than mine due to the method you used. They are still just dreadlocks. To some it's a spiritual journey, for some it's just a hair style. Either way, in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter. Don't use product because there is SLS or SLES...it causes CANCER. well, let's get real for a moment. Almost everyone washes their hair with shampoo. FACT. Most every shampoo has SLS or SLES. FACT. How many cases of skin cancer from the scalp are there? Don't have an answer? Neither do I. WHY? Because the minute traces of SLS or SLES in shampoo isn't enough to cause cancer. You can get it from EVERYTHING. Cancer is an unhealthy cell. People are quick to go to McDonalds or Sonic (Etc) for a quick meal. Those meals are (although sometimes they taste good) BAD for you. A poor diet doesn't produce healthy cells...and therefore you get cancer. So can I make the deduction McDonald's gives you cancer? I guess if you are following the SLS-SLES mindset...the answer is yes. Drop the stigma and just LOVE your fellow dreadhead. <br /><br><br />For those of you on this journey with me, thank you. It means a lot to me to have such amazing people in my life. I promise to encourage you, push you to be better and to simply love you unconditionally. That is just how I am.<br /><br><br />If the rest of the world took the time to re-evaluate their life and to put more positive practices into play, then complaining 4 days into a fresh start wouldn't be happening. I CHOOSE HAPPINESS and POSITIVE thinking...as opposed to the other. <br /><br><br />Care to join me in this new adventure?<br />Peace LOVE and locs,<br />(the new and improved) <br />BETSEHBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-88213532388558086132010-12-15T06:18:00.001-08:002010-12-15T08:23:05.624-08:00McDonalds isn't the ONLY place with SUPERFAT....This is a MUST READ if you have dreadlocks or debating dreadlocks.<br /><br />I received a call from a man (we'll call him Bob) in California that has dreadlocks that are 18 YEARS old. I mean honestly, that is nuts! He said he's frustrated because he has to wash his dreadlocks every day. <br /><br />EVERYDAY?!?! is that what I have to look forward to? If so I need to rethink this journey! Not that I am opposed to washing that often...but the drying time HAS to be forever. I digress...<br /><br />So I start questioning him as I do anyone that has dreadlocks. He then announces that for 18 years, he's used Dr. Bronners and Neutrogena.<br /><br />Problem solved.<br /><br />Why? Well, for one simple fact. <br /><br />THEY SUPERFAT THEIR SOAP.<br /><br />What exactly is superfat and WHY is it bad? Buckle your belts...<br /><br />When companies / people make soap, sometimes they add extra oils so that you, the consumer, get a more moisture rich soap. The extra oils don't have the ability to mix with the lye and saponify. In theory, do your skin, should be ok. In fact if you have dry skin, it is pretty nice. But for dreadlocks? Not so good.<br /><br />According to http://www.suite101.com/lesson.cfm/17779/1065/2 this is what they say about how to superfat the soap...so this way you can ask the correct questions when attempting to use something handmade. <br /><br />"There are three ways to superfat your soap:<br /><br />1. Use oils which have higher percentages of unsaponifiables. Oils such as Avocado oil and Shea Butter contain oils which will not combine with lye and will remain in your soap for a more nourishing bar.<br /><br />2. Reduce the amount of lye in your soap (also called discounting the lye). This essentially raises the level of oil in your soap above that which is necessary to combine with the lye for saponification. The excess oil will not saponify and will be available in your soap for a more moisturizing bar. Most soapmakers superfat their soap by 5% automatically. Some superfat as high as 8%.<br /><br />3. Add certain oils at trace. Adding more expensive and highly nutritious oils at trace, after most saponification has taken place, will results in these oils remaining in the soap. Add oils such as cocoa butter and wheatgerm at trace for dry skin bars. For each pound of soap, add about one tablespoon of warmed/melted oil.<br /><br />Remember, too much oil in your soap could results in a bar that is too soft to use or in excess oil oozing out of your bar (not a pretty sight). Most recipes from books and on the web have already been superfatted at 5%."<br /><br />Why isn't it so good? (gosh, my science teacher in highschool would be so proud of me...as would my english teacher!) Well, for starters dreadlocks + oil = a hot mess. The oil traps the daily nonsense in the air and environment around us. Then when you wash with a superfatted soap you think you got it out, right? WRONG! All that garbage STAYS IN YOUR DREADLOCKS! Then, when your dreadlocks are dried and you palmroll (because lets face it...a good palmrolling session is pretty darn amazing) you compress all that junk left in your hair. If you don't get your dreadlocks dry in a short time, all that garbage will turn to mold or a murkey brownish discharge that will seep from your dreadlocks. This is EXACTLY what happened with Bob's dreadlocks. <br /><br />How do you fix this? Well, you really cannot if you have been using these kinds of soaps for years. Once you get to this stage, you have basically ruined your dreadlocks. There ARE things you can do to help remove this mess but it will take more patience and some extra work. <br /><br />I have suggested that Bob do a deep cleanse. Mix 1 tbsp of Baking Soda to 1 cup of hot water (typically i suggest warm water but let's be honest...there are 18 YEARS of stuff trapped in his dreadlocks! I also typically suggest 1 tsp but again, time to call out the big guns!) into a large bowl / plastic bin / sink....whatever. Then I instructed him to let his locs soak 15 min and then to change the water out and do it again. After 30 min of soaking, I instructed him to take a full cup of room temperature Bragg's Apple Cider Vinegar into a gallon pitcher and then fill the rest with warm water (or you can mix it in the same container you used for your bs wash) and soak 3-5 min. Next step, hop in the shower and RINSE RINSE RINSE RINSE well. For Bob, I suggested he do this 1-2 times week to help break as much of this gunk down as possible. I also told him about the Dread Soap by Dreadheadhq. <br /><br />The other way you can do a deep cleanse is WITH the Dreadheadhq Dread Soap. Add 1/2 cup of Dread Soap to a bucket / bowl / tub of water and scrub. If your locs are not locked, I would suggest doing this with a stocking cap on to help the dreadies during their fragile state.) Then you rinse really well :)<br /><br />It's been 6-8 weeks since I talked to Bob and I'm hoping no news is good news. Was hoping he would share what the water looked like to prove this point but he DID say he was way too embarassed.<br /><br />What if your locs are younger and you have been using superfatted soaps short term? Good news! By doing the SAME rinse on yourself you should be able to stop the damage before it's a permanent issue. <br /><br />Ok, so far, here is a list of soaps that DO say they superfat their soaps and if you have dreadlocks (or are on the fence as to getting them) you SHOULD stay clear away.<br /><br />Dr. Bronners (all varieties)<br />Neutrogena (all varities)<br />Maylee's Garden Vegan Soaps (I haven't yet gotten a clear answer whether or not she does superfat but from the residue that is left from the soap, it makes this a not-so-good choice for locked hair.)<br />ANY shampoo that claims its moisture - rich or has moisturizer or moisturizing in the name (or in the description)<br /><br />Other things to consider when looking for a good shampoo. I know, I know all the flavors smell wonderful! However, a smell left behind in hair is really just an oil and that will lead to residue and that will lead to rot. So, here is a VERY simple test to see if a soap leaves a residue.<br /><br />Ready? <br /><br />I mean, it IS really simple.<br /><br />Take the soap you would like to use in your dreadlocks and wash your hands with it. After you wash your hands, smell them. How do they smell? If you smell anything then that soap WILL leave residue. If there is no smell, how does your hand feel? A lot softer/smoother? Then its a 95% chance that soap is superfatted and you should run away.<br /><br />What can you do with all the extra soaps? Give em to your friends that don't have dreadlocked hair :) I'm sure they would be glad to get some free soap / shampoo. Food pantries LOVE donations so you could check with them and explain why you are donating them. Some will accept the donation, some won't. Cannot find a local food pantry? Find a local United Methodist Church. They tend to have food pantries in them. <br /><br />There are very VERY few shampoos that are actually residue free. Even if a bottle states that it IS, do your research. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">If you are thinking I might be making this up, here is what it says at http://www.drbronner.com/soapmaking_overview.html</span><br /><br />"Soaps have been made for millennia. Aside from making fire and cooking food, "saponifying" oil and fat into soap is one of the oldest and simplest chemical reactions known to humankind. In fact, the first soaps were accidentally made by fat dripping into the ashes of cooking fires.<br />Soap is made by saponifying a fat or oil with an alkali. A fat or oil is a "triglyceride," which means that three fatty acids of various carbon lengths are attached to a glycerine backbone. The alkali is either sodium (for bars) or potassium (for liquids) hydroxide, made by running electricity through salt water."<br /><br />and here is where they ADMIT to superfatting....<br /><br />"Unlike most commercial soap-makers who distill the glycerin out of their soaps to sell separately, Dr. Bronner's retains it in their soaps for its superb moisturizing qualities.<br />We superfat our soaps with organic hemp and jojoba oils for a milder, smoother lather."<br /><br />...<br /><br />So now what? Well, the choice is yours. I suggest Dreadheadhq's Dread Soap as it truly IS residue free. It leaves no scent, has no color and is perfectly clear. It lathers well and rinses away very nicely. If you find your scalp is a bit itchy, use less shampoo per wash OR rinse in it cooler water. <br /><br />The other thing you can do....I did this in the beginning of having dreadlocks. I added some of my bathsalts to the shampoo (a tsp) and then washed them that way. If you do use these bathsalts once a week, that will help keep your dreadlocks clean, healthy AND helps your skin too! (if interested, www.saltedearth.etsy.com)<br /><br />My friend Violet (www.knottybynature.org) puts Dreadheadhq shampoo and some baking soda into a spray bottle and that helps with the SLS sensitivity. (Violet, please post your recipe for others!) <br /><br />I hope this blog will help you make smarter decisions on about the care of your dreadlocks. I do recommend washing 2-3 times a week and then doing a monthly deep cleanse just for an extra safe measure.<br /><br />Until we dread again...<br />Peace, Love and Locs,<br />BetsehBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-28818195068963130172010-12-07T08:56:00.000-08:002010-12-08T06:24:00.244-08:00happy birthday12/6/09 Day 1 with Dreadlocks<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgw35ZiP5viR_ET2SwK5Ne2HcnWUK8sQMbjfWuB1LfNWE7m_cBwKQ3nspzdtFsHOdUEjxPH_FgXKb7K-CO70JWGaOS5gXCOPa6CKHZ90yA8gw_1WaAj2Akf0ZAgM0KVTaTe8H2Gm66s3CE/s1600/15360_197396346610_632081610_3583655_6341554_n.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgw35ZiP5viR_ET2SwK5Ne2HcnWUK8sQMbjfWuB1LfNWE7m_cBwKQ3nspzdtFsHOdUEjxPH_FgXKb7K-CO70JWGaOS5gXCOPa6CKHZ90yA8gw_1WaAj2Akf0ZAgM0KVTaTe8H2Gm66s3CE/s320/15360_197396346610_632081610_3583655_6341554_n.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5547985885183363618" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br />12/6/10 Day 356 with Dreadlocks<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirLiXtHpgEbFNjyanmGDBjbq9qZk0iqwqZ7HtcGpMCvlXBan36nbOmOyG_RPktfpdCK_1_T6gzxf928KzUjfvjZ2VP2E29gECXwfYGNz3fHXH77AxTqchZClZ0xHTALh4FHC9K0yW5VPQ/s1600/IMG_0571.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirLiXtHpgEbFNjyanmGDBjbq9qZk0iqwqZ7HtcGpMCvlXBan36nbOmOyG_RPktfpdCK_1_T6gzxf928KzUjfvjZ2VP2E29gECXwfYGNz3fHXH77AxTqchZClZ0xHTALh4FHC9K0yW5VPQ/s320/IMG_0571.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5547986234058759954" /></a><br /><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br /><br><br />So it's been a FULL YEAR! I just am at a loss for words. <br /><br><br />When I started on this journey, I had NO idea really what to expect except that I would have dreadlocks. Never expected to learn about patience, forgiveness, God's grace / love / humility, friendship, effects of negativity and did I yet mention patience? I have gained some powerful and amazing friends along this journey and to each of you (you know who you are) I am humbled to share this experience with you and looking forward to the next year! <br /><br><br />If you would have told me 10 years ago (shoot even a year ago) that I would be making a living on doing dreadlock work and helping others on their journey, I probably would have laughed at ya. I mean, lets be honest. I would have never expected to travel as far as Ohio (to the west), Ct (to the east) and SC (to the south) all in the name of dreadlocks! I would have never expected to open a studio and a second location in Jacksonville, FL...and then a third in Denmark all within 6 months! Knotted By Knature, although still needing a website...i am just not creative enough to make one....is booming and it feels great! I feel confident that the people that are working with me actually KNOW what they are doing and can help people with the correct information. It's just amazing. And knowing that I am able to help more people then just those that want maintenance or dreadlock work...I am able to have products from others in the dreadlock community for sale in the store front we will have in January in Jacksonville! <br /><br><br />I've always been the girl that fits into most any clique as I get along with almost everyone. I don't care what you have or don't have...I care about your heart. And I think that is the right way to be. The ironic thing is...I feel like I have found a community that is as loving as my church community. Between my family at Christ Community UMC and the Dreadheadhq Community...the amount of love, respect and positiveness that come with them...I am just uber blessed. Words just cannot even begin to describe this. I pray that everyone reading this can find a place that just accepts them for themselves and unconditionally loves you.<br /><br><br />Please, don't get me wrong, it's now all daisies and strawberries...there have been bumps and there will ALWAYS be bumps. You stand up, brush yourself off, thank the God the Creator for the chance to learn valuable lessons and walk forward onto your next adventure.<br /><br><br />I feel this blog is going to be turning into more of what I am learning in doing all this dreadlock stuff than anything. I have taken some calls for Dreadheadhq that STILL are with me and I will need to blog about. This will include (with people's permission) pictures and such. I would be VERY interested in knowing (feel free to comment on this so I can keep it all in one place) why YOU got your dreadlocks and what YOU have learned. It doesn't have to be anything profound or whatver...sometimes the simplest things ARE the most profound.<br /><br><br />So here is to another 365 days where we can all grow together in knowledge and wisdom and love. I will be making a more conscious effort to blog more often. I am sorry that I have slacked GREATLY in this area. I would like Tuesdays to be the day that I blog as it will be right after the live chats I host (www.tinychat.com/dreadheadhqlive) on Monday nights!<br /><br><br />Here are some of the people I would like to thank...no particular order...and if I leave anyone out, I apologize from the depths of my soul!<br />My son Noah, Michelle McAlhaney, Dreadheadhq (Jonny and Sloan), John (H.) Dreadman - Kobb, Dustin Camper, Amy Schile (and Phoenix for all the kisses!), Jennifer Rose, Violet LeHew-Fletcher, Jason Robinson (and Aurora for being so darn cute!), Toni Rase, Mikkel Kirketerp, Kate Kamphausen, Luz Williams / Junglemama, Melisa Sword, Beth Laquay, Alyssa Beardsley, Beatlebaby Glassworks, Preach Freedom and the countless others that have given support and encouragement. I really wouldn't be here without you!<br /><br><br />Peace, Love and Locs,<br />Betseh the Crazy Salt Lady!Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-64075070009126061242010-08-19T13:52:00.000-07:002010-08-19T14:32:03.567-07:00debate<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjw9Qsr_qAngC4Tf1qKAR6PBvhwI0l67v6aTR_HzkFsMyoIkUBum85pWW9BzZJJ98nhfD2Jpqog-9l9oeo8Hb2_Bll9QB76MV_98zurPS4CtyqHzd1CozROzAP2w7QFUkPO56WYIZe349I/s1600/38733_1335819848702_1627262302_791896_775342_n.jpg"><img style="cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 302px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjw9Qsr_qAngC4Tf1qKAR6PBvhwI0l67v6aTR_HzkFsMyoIkUBum85pWW9BzZJJ98nhfD2Jpqog-9l9oeo8Hb2_Bll9QB76MV_98zurPS4CtyqHzd1CozROzAP2w7QFUkPO56WYIZe349I/s320/38733_1335819848702_1627262302_791896_775342_n.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5507234129414350642" /></a><br />Hey!<br /><br />thanks for checking in again. so these last few weeks have been a little...crazy. <br /><br />i found an opportunity to challenge the biggest wax hater and i won the challenge. even after winning the challenge, he still has continued to provide me with hate mail....and not just from him! <br /><br />so i digress...i feel maybe showing the positive will negate all the negativity that he shows. so here goes!<br /><br /><br /> as a previous blog states, i started my locks more like the knotty boy way. i had no idea. to quote a good friend of mine "it looked easy on youtube!". anyways, i got this garbage from sally's. it was petro based and slimy, nasty, smelled ... ok, yeah it kinda smelled too. anyways, after a few uses and more internet research, found that if i choose to use wax, i shouldnt use something with petro cuz it could cause slippage. i stumbled onto soaring eagles website. in my opnion, i have never seen a more negative website. in reading what there was, i found so much complaining, name calling, childish behavior that i stepped away. it was terrible. i landed on www.dreadheadhq.com and it was positive and friendly. i ordered the kit and began the journey for real. i used dhhq wax for a month and then switched to the a/b routine. in under 4 months, i was locked and things were amazing! i met some people that i though would change my life...encouraged them on their journey and now they are backstabbing. have i gone out of my way to publically tell what i know? nope. cuz that isnt the right thing to do on any level...but power to those that think bashing people is honestly a good way to go about things. i have turned the other cheek and figure if they want to make themselves look like the people they really are...well, thats on them. what amazes me is that they still claim they will use dhhq product...but why should they if their day is centered around bashing it?<br /> <br /> anyways, i think my point to this blog it to tell people that the dhhq wax DOES work. i read on a forum its like toothpaste. in small doses its ok, in large doses its not. moderation is the key to everything except chocolate. chocolate must be consumed in mass quantities! anyways, if you misuse something, its not the companies fault when they even tell you to not misuse the stuff! <br /><br /> i am continuing on my dreadlock journey with my head held high and love helping others get the dreadlocks they wanted or maintenance cuz they got lazy. this journey has taught me so much about me and about other people. i must admit...being called a liar, troll and psycho cuz i believe what i believe...well, even God said that people will get made fun of if they believe him. im not saying jonny is a god (sorry man!)...but i am saying that his stuff has worked for me. <br /><br />his most recent pic makes me giggle...so im enclosing it for your viewing pleasure. <br /><br />peace love and locks (i like how ive been using this tag line for awhile and someone took it to make a group. glad to know my ideas are just that good!).<br />bBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-76332486580047341672010-08-05T13:47:00.000-07:002010-08-05T14:26:03.393-07:00rawhey,<br /><br />so ive decided i need to blog about whats on my mind. ive been given the most incredible chance to open a salon that is a dreadlock only salon and be one of the first to be certified by DHHQ as a dreadlock specialist. i mean, dreadlocks changed my life...i cannot even explain it..and when i do some get it, some laugh and others just think im crazy. well, crazy may be close but nevertheless....<br /><br />i have made some very amazing friends along this journey. many thanks to facebook for this! the dhhq page is one i frequent often and LOVE helping people out with their dreadlock journey. even traveling to help people get work done has been a highlight. this journey is only third to the one i have with god and with my son. <br /><br />i have learned that there are 2 types of people in EVERY stereotype. the first kind of person thinks with their heart and with what feels right. i dont always do lots of book research, i dont sit through countless lectures. i go with what is thrown my way and i decide how i feel about it. then there are those that study EVERYTHING to the n'th degree. i dont mind those kind of people, i just tend to not get along with them as well. i would prefer to learn from life than a textbook.<br /><br />so in contact with the right people, this salon will be happening...just not as i was thinking. i will be doing it from here for now..then as soon as i am able, i will be relocating it. i will have a place for fellow DHHQ users to sell their things, local place for people to buy DHHQ stuff, my salted earth stuff...it should be pretty awesome. i mean come on, a life where you are helping people do something that means something to them. that is just amazing!<br /><br />i am feeling raw over a set of circumstances that have transpired over the last few days...sitting here just gnawing on the fat and trying to figure out what i will do with what has happened. sigh. life isnt supposed to be so complicated...or is it?<br /><br />im off to go hear the wonderful music of www.robinmark.com in syracuse. hes just amazing. and it will help me get myself centered before i head to philly with renee for the weekend. ooh, and im meeting marla! woohoo!<br /><br />peace, love and locks<br />bBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-81116402152222555702010-07-26T10:03:00.001-07:002010-07-26T10:55:53.693-07:00hospital updatehey all<br /><br />so yeah, i blew out my L5S1 for the third time. i knew i was in trouble cuz of some of the side effects. dawn took me into crouse hospital where a crazy week ensued.<br /><br />so for starters, i have so many family members with diabetes that i am at HIGH risk. my dr decided to have me start glumetza so i can AVOID becoming diabetic. also, please keep in mind, my blood pressure is picture perfect :) when a body is in pain, the blood pressure goes up. makes sense right? haha, wait until you hear this.<br /><br />ok, so im at one of the BEST hospitals in syracuse. the nurse came in and said "hey, it's time for your finger stick." now, i am under the influence of their best pain meds (diulated) and knew i was mentally numb..but i also knew i didnt do finger sticks ever. so i told them no. you would think i killed the nurses dog. then, another nurse came in and said it was time for my insulin. i have NEVER taken insulin EVER in my life and want to keep it that way. so after arguing with them for almost an hour, they left me alone. this persisted for 3 days. i finally had enough and requested to speak to the dr that ordered these things. after an HOUR of talking with the dr, i got him to cancel the insulin AND finger stick. i had to give him ONE stick and if it was ok, he would cancel it. well, guess what? i hit it right on the nose :)<br /><br />a day of "peace" goes by and they start asking me if i would like to take my blood pressure medicine. i can only imagine the look on my face. i have NEVER in my life ever taken blood pressure medicine. it is always 120/80 pretty much like clockwork. after 4 days of refusing it, i again ask for the dr that prescribed this. in walks this little woman with a indian name. i wish i could remember. i was being discharged and she showed up. she says she will give me some motrin to deal with the blown disc (yeah, cuz THAT is gonna help). she says she doesn't want to send me home with anything stronger cuz of my blood pressure issues. i started to laugh. i told her i have NEVER had bp issues not have i EVER had bp meds. my family dr is pretty amazing and she would have had me start them if she thought i needed them. i explain to the dr that i refused the meds everytime...she says she even lowered the dose....i couldnt help but laugh cuz she had NO IDEA i NEVER took the meds she prescribed. she says she will call my family dr to clarify things. i tell her i will save her a step and called my dr. in 4 min i had my family np informed to what is going on and she asks to speak to this dr at crouse. the dr was no where to be found. 15 min later, she is in the o.r.. so in walks peter sinatra. he is a pa i guess...i cannot really remember. i just remember i liked his bedside manner and his name made me think of my dad's love of FRANK SINATRA. he tells me he has cleared up the mess and apologized. <br /><br />the nursing staff was only 25% with it. the night staff was so loud that you couldnt even get sleep with the door closed. my best sleep was 6am-10am cuz the shifts were changing and the morning shift wasnt really awake yet!<br /><br />i DO have to thank ALL Of you that came to visit, sent cards, emailed, called, text messages. SUPER COOL kudos to Jonny and Sloan for using their status message to canvas for prayers. that was super cool. and hey, little brah, johnneh, i'm assuming you told them so kudos for lookin out for me!<br /><br />the weirdest thing at crouse was my 2nd night there. i woke up with my hair being played with. i though i was dreaming. i woke up and looked and there was a nurse checking out my dreadlocks. apparently the fact that i was white and knotty spread through the floor like wildfire. haha. she said she had to see for herself cuz another nurse said they were really awesome. she and i talked dreadlocks for about an hour. her bf has them (twisties) and we discussed the pros and cons of ethnic vs white hair. i gave her (yes, cuz i keep em on me) my dreadheadhq card so that her bf could try the shampoo :) yes, even in sincere pain, i gave dhhq props. lol. <br /><br />many many many thanks to michelle for getting noah to camp aldersgate and for bringing him in for daily visits...it was a NICE change from the norm. i asked noah how it was hanging out with michelle and dawn with me in the hospital. he announced it was SO awesome cuz he got to see me every day. that was awesome. it helped me more than i could ever tell...so thanks michelle and dawn.<br /><br />surgery will be in about a month after the complication is taken care of. then im looking at 2 months of recovery. for now, im walking with a foot brace...but could be worse!<br /><br />well, i gotta go get michelle's boys and then catch up on emails and maybe figure out how to make a dhhq video...lol. we'll see what happens. <br /><br />peace, love and locks!<br />betsyBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-46328141525467316832010-07-01T11:12:00.000-07:002010-07-01T11:22:29.362-07:00pics from the DHHQ gathering in Hartford, CT<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZGWGV60iUlPM-uqHh5pAlmHwy2uHijPXXIXgrJD03FL-N5cyCaKLxqWfPnClh76ZIHHuU7mVJKELuGdvJ7OLO5SH2-X7BQh24xo8mrqPRzDaHWZRx10vl4F-88iXcF3un4DzEHAKy8-o/s1600/IMG_1001.jpg"><img style="cursor:pointer; 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margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiIUupY2FUt0Bwkf7BkOAS7g47SpmnRzTqNguvyc8bcNRS3a8H0zMP8w_ADjLqJu7mCXqJLJ83BK13EOsq9gwdnmkiggBG1prWJK1NZHz84Y2K0KIGuox-f7VQZEV5_yPg2smjj0XhmBU8/s320/IMG_1009.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5489003121423870018" /></a> Noah, Scotty and Aidan goofing around<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4lZBDMTx0oEppJ03Mufb8fP8qtJHpEuPglQL8Ss4BMNyppZbHc2kRbFwNHE_d0myX84HzQbmVCIIeZeSNJDsqXyxlek6dKJVnO1G8ko5yIh2-LxNh6eRtI5dHGhj0LbdetCbvMlOqnwM/s1600/IMG_1020.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4lZBDMTx0oEppJ03Mufb8fP8qtJHpEuPglQL8Ss4BMNyppZbHc2kRbFwNHE_d0myX84HzQbmVCIIeZeSNJDsqXyxlek6dKJVnO1G8ko5yIh2-LxNh6eRtI5dHGhj0LbdetCbvMlOqnwM/s320/IMG_1020.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5489002622630880162" /></a> Amy and Phoenix workin on my locksBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-76581020524787617682010-07-01T10:55:00.001-07:002010-07-01T11:12:56.398-07:00Dreadheadhq meet up in Hartford, CtHey!<br /><br />wow, i had the best weekend! i got to meet up with Amy, Meg and Melanie! it was so much fun. we met up at northwest park in hartford and enjoyed the beauty. we all brought food to share and the kids got to explore this awesome park. amy didnt waste anytime diving into my dreadlocks. i didnt think she would go ALL THE WAY through ALL my dreadlocks...but i must confess, her work is outstanding! between amy and jenn my locks look amazing! i still want to go meet up with the knotted empresses at sometime.<br /><br />i am looking forward to meeting up with other dreadlocked folks. <br /><br />i traded some of my dreadwraps and salts with meg for a skirt she's making me...and its STUNNING! i also gave amy salts for the goodie bags she is using :)<br /><br />the fellowship was so easy. you would think meeting up with "strangers" would be awkward but it just flowed like we saw eachother the weekend prior!<br /><br />i'll post pics individually as posts as this uploader is making me crazy. <br /><br />i'm looking forward to meeting more dhhq dreadheads and have sent a proposal to jonny and sloan...here's to hopin! <br /><br />peace love and locks,<br />bBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-42320154450584817182010-06-20T12:37:00.000-07:002010-06-20T12:56:32.572-07:00Beth's Dread DayHello :)<br /><br />I was asked to go to Youngstown, Ohio area to help Beth's dream of being knotty come true :) What a sincere honor and joy it was!<br /><br />Beth is an herbalist and has 3 kids. She is married to Jim who does some awesome work with silver. I was honored to be asked to help her out. <br /><br />When I got there, the smells of her little shop overwhelmed me and SMELLED SO GOOD!!! Beth gave me a huge hug, checked out my dreadlocks and we sat down to chat.<br /><br />Her hair was mid-lower back. I should have measured how long it was. I was so worried it would take a lot of time but it actually only took about 18 hours. We did 3/4 inch sections through most of her hair...some are only 1/2 inch sections. We used the accelerator and then I did 7 dreadies the first night. <br /><br />Tuesday, Beth's daughters (Leah, Becca and Jen) came over to help dreadlock. Her girls are amazing. I kinda got adopted into the family. We all got so silly and laughed SO hard. My stomach really hurt! Her hair was a great texture as the dreadlocks went in fairly easily. Her daughters really seemed to love giving "mom" the locks she wanted. When we finished the day, there were only 7 more to go...woohoo!<br /><br />Wednesday, Beth and I took an hour long road trip to meet up with Jennifer Rose! Jenn worked on my hair as I was waxing Beth's hair. It was awesome. I wish we had more time but I KNOW we will all meet again.<br /><br />We got back to Beth's house and had a pizza party with her daughter and two of her grandkids. It was just so much fun.<br /><br />I really, REALLY enjoyed my time with them all! I look forward to Beth's locks maturing and helping her out as much as I can. <br /><br />Fellow dreadheadhq users...please welcome BETH!!! <br /><br />peace love and locks,<br />bBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-34322094756409737232010-06-02T12:28:00.000-07:002010-06-02T12:43:01.609-07:00Dreadheadhq Reviewsso in reflecting on the fact that ive had dreadlocks for almost 6 months, figured i would do a few product reviews for ya!<br /><br />Dreadheadhq Shampoo...<br />This stuff is simply amazing. i love how clear it is when it comes out of the bottle...you can see the difference right off the bat! i use a nickle size portion every monday and thursday when i wash. my locks feel amazing after. i like how they dry so fast...then again, my hair is only to my shoulders. i let my son try it (he has regular hair)...and woah, his hair was SOOOO SMOOTH and felt and looked amazing! i recommend this shampoo to EVERYONE!<br /><br />Dreadheadhq Wax...<br />ok, disclaimer. if you DON'T like wax, relax. this is MY review. please do not post negative comments on this!<br /><br />so this wax smells amazing. i LOVE the hemp seed oil...its just awesome. i used the suggested amounts from dreadheadhq and used it for 1 month full time and 1 month part time. it has helped my locks keep form, i have NO residue or dirty spots as people claim you can have with wax. i have been without wax for 4 months now...and my hair is clean, healthy and scent-sational!<br /><br />Dreadheadhq Butta...<br />do i really need to say anymore? the smell is insane! i was at shakori hills grassroots festival and people i was around said my locks smelled good enough to eat! i LOVE how soft and frizz-free my locks are. i dont use it daily...only every other week. this is probably one of my fav products!<br /><br />HONCHO :)<br />HONCHO = LOVE! i didnt think i would miss a brush on my scalp cuz my daughter had been doing my perms for a few years...but oh man, i sure did. so i sucked it up and got this. oh was i just really not prepared for this! it feels so good! ya know, when a dog scratches up against something and has that look of "oh yeah"? yeah, thats kinda of how it feels...just wonderful. its like the honcho is kissing my scalp so my hair grows faster! if i could marry an inanimate object...this would be it.<br /><br />Hope this helps you decide what to use! there are other products that i use that i will do reviews for another day! (blogspot has been crashing and its making me scared that i will have to do this for a 3rd time!)<br /><br />peace, love and locks!<br />bBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-20307872877777987022010-05-24T09:51:00.000-07:002010-05-24T10:19:27.900-07:00SALTED EARTH HOMESTEADi am in the process of saving $ so i can move down south and buy some land to start SALTED EARTH HOMESTEAD. for several years, i have been desiring a place where i can hold concerts often, have fresh eggs, have a nice garden to supply veggies, maybe some fruit trees, log cabin, solar panels or wind turbines....to get back down to basics i guess. rick reese said he would be more than willing to build the log cabin...so now i need to just save save save.<br /><br />in trying to think outside the box for extra income to make my dream a reality, it occured to me i should prob offer my bathsalts. knowing that my dreadlocks matured faster than 6 months, i figured out it had to be my salts. the bathsalts have helped my skin in ways that i cannot begin to explain. <br /><br />so knowing i would be seeing jonny and sloan, i decided to bring them some to try. as a way of saying thankyou and hoping they would feel the positive effects that i felt. well not only did they love them, they agreed they would help dreadlocks! <br /><br />so................<br /><br />i posted on the dhhq site and found a few people that were willing to try them out. what excited me more is i shipped one to denmark and the other to uk! that was amazing! <br /><br />and the response from people using them have been INCREDIBLE! i started the etsy store thanks to the help of a wonderful Amy (again! not sure what i would do without her help!) and waiting my first sale. several people have emailed asking questions...so just waiting.<br /><br />i talked to gary weeks sunday and mentioned to him that in september, i wanted to do a push to raise $ for www.hopeforheather.org and he said ok. so in september, there will be tourquise lids and saltcloths. $1 from each purchase will go to help fund ovarian cancer research and help carry on Heather Week's legacy. will be nice to help out.<br /><br />i want to do something for cervical cancer awareness also...so i'm looking into that.<br /><br />so i guess salted earth homestead was created a little earlier than i planned...but it's all good! i am hoping others can enjoy the effects of the salts and share them with everyone. i will eventually be putting out there different uses for the salts aside from skin and dreadlock care.<br /><br />if you havent had the chance to try them, my etsy store is linked to my facebook, or you can add saltedearth homestead to your friends list via fb (pick the one that has the pic...the other one i couldnt get into after it was created..)<br /><br />well, i just did a nice soak at michelle's house so i better go do some palm rolling and cwr!<br /><br />peace, love and locks,<br />bBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-34395094709034678622010-05-15T10:16:00.000-07:002010-05-15T10:41:10.176-07:00Rock the Routine2 blogs in a week :) woohoo!<br /><br />tomorrow, my church family is Rocking the Routine! instead of our regular service, we are all meeting at 9am and having a worship service TOGETHER! (i have been a member for 5 years. there are people i still haven't met because i attend the 1045 service....not the 9am one!) it will be nice to meet new people, see who sits where i normally sit and to have the church so packed it spills out into fellowship hall! then we are all going out on projects around our church and into the community. i am helping with the HOPE FOR HEATHER ribbons (www.hopeforheather.org) that will be passed out at the fair and other functions. i am feeling really good about helping because heather is my friend gary's daughter. she passed away too early due to cancer. she and i were both sick at the same time. i feel so blessed i am still alive and living a wonderful life. i sometimes feel guilty that she is gone...she was so young, full of talent and life. it was hard seeing my friend's family grieve in such a hard way. <br /><br />there are about 20 other things people can do for rock the routine. some are going to vera house to do some interior painting, helping sort clothing for the refugee clothing drive, going to the rescue mission and helping out, cleaning up a park, helping a single mom with limited income with some work around the house....<br /><br />seriously, how amazing is that?! <br /><br />after we do our "jobs", we are all meeting back at the church for a coverdish dinner and then a worship celebration together. unfortunatly, noah has a birthday party to attend so i will miss out on that.<br /><br />BUT<br /><br />at 7pm, we are going to believer's chapel (i think...gotta check the tickets) to worship with PAUL BALOCHE!!! come on! i am so excited. for those of you that do not know him, he is well worth the lookup. he is one of the top worship leaders in the country...i beg to say in the WORLD...but that might be a little outlandish...might be right on...not sure. when he and ROBIN MARK get together...oh man, its INSANE!<br /><br />i am fairly excited (ok, fairly is an UNDERSTATEMENT) for tomorrow. going to sleep tonight might be a little difficut.<br /><br />at SOME point, between pneumonia and rock the routine, i GOTTA find time to work on my dreadlocks...they need some serious attention. been kinda lax since vacation. <br /><br />well, i gotta go get some things done. just dont want to overdo it too much today.<br /><br />peace, love and locks,<br />betsyBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-68696880475539415552010-05-13T10:21:00.000-07:002010-05-13T10:51:28.603-07:00Spring Breakhey,<br /><br />i need to apologize for the lack of blogging. where i am living, there is only dialup and its SLOOOOOOOOOOW. (yes, i live that far into the country) thank you michelle for the use of your laptop and internet!<br /><br />ok so, i promised i would blog about spring break and meeting jonny and sloan...so here goes!<br /><br />april 16th, we left ny and got into philly to watch roy "doc" halliday pitch an almost shut out game (until madson got in that is) on opening weekend and his home opener. we had the dhhq sign and made phanvision (the internal closed circuit tv). jonny and sloan were watching mlb.tv to see if they saw us but they didnt. <br /><br />after the game, we headed down to sc to spend time with my family. we had a great cookout and spent a nice afternoon together. after the cookout, noah and i went to greystone park for a photo shoot with my friends pam and randy. it was a lot of fun. noah got to play in the river with josiah and hudson. it was a blast!<br /><br />monday the 19th, we went and met up with jonny and sloan!!!!! they met me at the door of piggy park and was greeted with hugs. (yes john, i gave jonny a bear hug for you!) we shared a meal together and talked about some ideas for dhhq and to get to know eachother better. it was a nice time...i wish we could have had more time but i had to get on the road to avoid traffic. <br /><br />we got into temple a few hours early (i HAD to avoid atlanta rush hour) and suprised the burns family. we got there, knocked and walked into their home. tj came down the stairs and was shocked we were there...i grabbed the little stinker and hugged him and started tearing up. skylar was next, then kaitlyn...then connor. it was nuts. they grew up so much in 3 years. bob and i pulled a prank on christen and spent the night with them. it was so awesome catching up with them. noah had a SINCERE BLAST catching up with his old friends. it was nice watching them play...it was like no time passed at all. <br /><br />on 4/20, rick reese made the trip into temple to spend the evening with me! it was so amazing seeing him. we went in and got his name tattooed on the tattoo in memory of chris hobler. it was awesome. i hadnt seen him since july 1999. psycho tattoo did a great job.<br /><br />on 4/21 we drove back into columbia to meet up with jonny and sloan one more time (a whole 15 min) then met up with mom and my old friend michael for lunch. we fought traffic in columbia and made it to nc.<br /><br />shakori hills.<br /><br />i dont know even where to begin. we got in LATE wednesday night and set up tent and walked around our other "home". thursday was all hurry. it was nice. festival goers started showing up, you could hear sound systems from the various stages starting there "check 1 2" and rusted root arrived. i got the message to meet preach backstage at grove stage and we walked around. it was nice spending time with him. walked with patrick on accident for a few minutes. their concert was awesome. this was the first time preach saw my dreadlocks. he said they were pretty amazing. dirk loved them too! larry (road manager) asked if i could loan him a few...he is rather crazy...but i like him. they, unfortunatly, left right after the show and preach promised to see me soon. patrick and dirk gave lots of hugs and said next time we should be able to get more time together. the cool part about their show was michael's brother came on stage for "send me on my way". was cool to meet him. they seem rather close. the rest of the weekend was a huge blur! it went so fast. the weather was incredible, i got to hang out with curtis (a shakori friend) and met so many new people. i got to reconnect with the burgess family and it was great catching up and spending time together.<br /><br />leaving shakori was sad. i saw so many concerts...bela fleck was incredible...bassekou rocked, holy ghost tent revival tore the roof down...it was just amazing.<br /><br />now that i am home, i got the ok from jonny and sloan to plan a camping weekend with dhhq so we can all meet those that have helped our dreadlock journey. i am going to be getting ahold of shakori hills to see about a group rate. it's central nc, would be cheaper than going elsewhere and there are lots of amazing bands. might be a cheaper option for folks. so im going to be looking into it this month.<br /><br />thanks to everyone for your hospitality and love! it was an amazing time!<br /><br />peace, love and locks,<br />betsyBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-28517530328490025182010-04-14T18:37:00.001-07:002010-04-14T18:58:34.444-07:00regular meds?hey folks!<br /><br />well, since ive been questioned by a few people about medicines...and i firmly believe conventional medicines arent the greatest...<br /><br />here is what i do to help with my constant state of pain...<br /><br />for starters, i do take estrogen due to the hystrectomy. im not really a fan of it...but it works. the hot flashes were just so bad.<br /><br />secondly, i drink emergen-c. it is PACKED with vitamin c which helps me not get sick and helps me feel better. believe this is or not, i prefer the pink lemonaid flavor so far! (that was given to me by a friend who didnt like them.) the raspberry is my second favorite.<br /><br />now, to help with my migraines and pain, i DO use thieve's oil. its pretty amazing. it has also helped keep away colds! a few drops on my feet massaged in and poof! when i DO get a cold, i use RSV. it's amazing :) it's a combination of every euclyputus plant oil crushed and smells awesome. i actually stumbled on it when i had H1N1 columbus day weekend! <br /><br />i have been lucky to use the pt that i was taught and breathing techniques i learned. the diet i use has helped also. now if the weight would start coming off i would be happier :) that will come off eventually! <br /><br />the other thing that i have been asked is how am i healing...well good news in that area! i am discharged from the nurse as of friday!! i mean, all they have been doing is dressing changes (wet to dry) and vitals. they were monitoring my pain and claimed i should take the pain meds as prescribed...but if i can make it without taking them...well, then everyone wins! i save my insurance company money, i save me money and i dont have to infect my body with man made chemicals! its a win - win imo! <br /><br />i feel that i am setting a great example to my son be seeking alternative medicines that are godly made...not man made. yes, the estrogen and emergen-c ARE manmade...but nothing else is.<br /><br />ok, hope this helps those curious minds! <br /><br />im heading to bed. i didnt sleep well last night and i have SO MUCH to do tomorrow :)<br /><br />peace, love and dreads<br />b<br /><br />ps...if you believe in the power of prayer, my son and i could use all the prayer you can give! when i am at liberty to discuss more, i gladly will!Betsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-71746084888493500182010-04-12T19:06:00.000-07:002010-04-12T19:18:18.176-07:00many many thanks to amy :)oh yeah, so i was really encouraged the other day when i stumbled across amy. she is a dreadhead momma and pretty down to earth. she and i became fb friends and she says she now has a blog and asked me to read it. we have more in common than i realized! i was pretty shocked to read that i was the encouragement for her to start blogging! how awesome :) well, she is totally MORE computer literate than i am. i thought i was ok...but she has helped me get this blog where i wanted it! i noticed she had a really cute layout. she mentioned this site and that she saw one that made her think of me. voila, its the one i liked the best! so here ya go....! tada! my new look :) its awesome!<br /><br />it caused me to sit back and think...<br /><br />i mean, ive only had locks for just over 4 months now. but the WHOLE DHHQ (www.dreadheadhq.com) community has been INSANELY LOVING! always there with encouragement, words of advice if meh locks are needing words of advice, a laugh if i am having a hard day...shoot, jennifer is sending me a .7mm crochet hook cuz she got several from ebay and didnt need that many and i am sending her (jen - they went out in the mail today!) bath salts that i make...these are people i have NEVER MET! but know that if i am in the area, meeting them would be totally a possibility! i mean, amazing.<br /><br />ok, well, castle is on tv and ive had such a busy few days! i have LOTS to do before i take off for vacation :)<br /><br />peace, love and dreads,<br />bBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-85795899301137606622010-04-11T18:44:00.000-07:002010-04-11T19:27:40.998-07:00graceaccording to dictionary.com, the defination of grace is as follows:<br /><br />grace [greys] Show IPA noun, verb,graced, grac·ing.<br />–noun<br />1.<br />elegance or beauty of form, manner, motion, or action.<br />2.<br />a pleasing or attractive quality or endowment.<br />3.<br />favor or good will.<br />4.<br />a manifestation of favor, esp. by a superior: It was only through the dean's grace that I wasn't expelled from school.<br />5.<br />mercy; clemency; pardon: an act of grace.<br />6.<br />favor shown in granting a delay or temporary immunity.<br />7.<br />an allowance of time after a debt or bill has become payable granted to the debtor before suit can be brought against him or her or a penalty applied: The life insurance premium is due today, but we have 31 days' grace before the policy lapses. Compare grace period.<br />8.<br />Theology.<br />a.<br />the freely given, unmerited favor and love of God.<br />b.<br />the influence or spirit of God operating in humans to regenerate or strengthen them.<br />c.<br />a virtue or excellence of divine origin: the Christian graces.<br />d.<br />Also called state of grace. the condition of being in God's favor or one of the elect.<br />9.<br />moral strength: the grace to perform a duty.<br />10.<br />a short prayer before or after a meal, in which a blessing is asked and thanks are given.<br />11.<br />(usually initial capital letter) a formal title used in addressing or mentioning a duke, duchess, or archbishop, and formerly also a sovereign (usually prec. by your, his, etc.).<br />12.<br />Graces, Classical Mythology. the goddesses of beauty, daughters of Zeus and Eurynome, worshiped in Greece as the Charities and in Rome as the Gratiae.<br />13.<br />Music. grace note.<br /><br /><br />i always go out of my way to help others. i am often referred to as an "idealist". i see potential in people and it hurts me when i dont see them reaching for it or doing things that negate what they stand for. i am often guilty of not reaching for my potential. of that i am completely sure. it occurs, more often than not, that i do so much for others that i neglect myself. not that i decide openly that i do not want to take care of myself, it just happens sometimes. i have a friend that i have been friends with for a very long time. this friend i will name joe as this isn't his real name...i don't want people knowing who he is. i am sharing this because the lesson i learned is too good NOT to share. so here goes.<br /><br />joe has amazing talent. joe is NOT a go-getter and has an addictive personality. not that when you meet joe you are attracted like a magnet, more like things of addictive nature are difficult for him to say no to. alcohol, weed...etc. once joe gets going, he has a hard time stopping...if it is offered, he jumps at the chance to to participate and then, again, cannot stop. i have done everything i can to discourage joe's participation in this. to my knowledge, it has haulted almost completely. joe's self destructive path has cost him his children, his family home, his car and even his freedom. the irony, i have busted my bottom to help him correct these things only for him to screw them up again within a month. i had to set up boundaries and put some serious distance. <br /><br />grace.<br /><br />yesterday, while spending time with joe, someone came and brought me a gift. this gift came from a COMPLETE stranger. and it was full of things that i TOTALLY use on a daily and made with all vegetable products/essential oils. perfectly amazing. this person told me she felt she needed to. talk about blow me away.<br /><br />grace.<br /><br />today, while trying to pick up the last of the pieces so i can put as much distance and boundaries as possible in place so i can move on...i met this croatian woman. she is going to help me get things straightened around and then we are both backing away. joe states that he needs to get his life in order financially but cannot get a regular job. i state that its not that he cannot get a job, that he refuses to and refuses to do anything to make his situation better. joe leaves the house and sits outside and does what he always does when he doesnt want to deal with any reality. he pretends he is asleep. it gets me so mad that i can barely breathe. i have gone to such insane lengths to help joe out and it feels like a slap in the face that he REFUSES to do what he has to do. <br /><br />grace.<br /><br />this croatian woman is very intelligent and explains to me why joe will never change and why she has stepped away and why he is self destructive. she proceeds to tell me that she will gladly hold me accountable as i step away to where i feel comfortable. it reduces me to tears. i have NEVER met this woman before and yet, there she is pulling my heart strings to the point of tears. it made me realize that no matter what i would like for anyone, if THEY don't want to change, they arent going to. i am feeling such resolve from lots of prayer and talking to people and letting god's grace pour through me. i will gladly help people out however, it will be very different. and you all have joe to thank (as well as emily) for walking all over me.<br /><br />graceBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-761332135152930750.post-39751411874448951572010-04-07T11:43:00.000-07:002010-04-07T11:44:53.058-07:00pics<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj615Ir-Vae0z-UusiQ6F4dHRzZ5hdFRw7im1vSiEpNNHfz0ZOEZL4fFMlrwkQ-9RkO_vCIjJ3rfweX_wg3NVQQjRuhE4v6Y9F006NdX6v2PTrASXeDHFm8A8-MQyqCf3qxPwI2N-qxgQ8/s1600/25775_382661791610_632081610_4374921_5342131_n.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj615Ir-Vae0z-UusiQ6F4dHRzZ5hdFRw7im1vSiEpNNHfz0ZOEZL4fFMlrwkQ-9RkO_vCIjJ3rfweX_wg3NVQQjRuhE4v6Y9F006NdX6v2PTrASXeDHFm8A8-MQyqCf3qxPwI2N-qxgQ8/s320/25775_382661791610_632081610_4374921_5342131_n.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5457468065946313010" /></a><br /><br /><br />hey :) i moved around my pics a bit...<br /><br />added the sponsorship logo :) and figured i would put a pic here for all to see my FULLY LOCKED dreadlocks with MANY props to the dhhq family :) this pic was taken today which makes my dreads 4 months 1 day old :)<br /><br />peace, love and dreads<br />bBetsy Martinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04397659492889414207noreply@blogger.com0